You know, it is ironic who difficult I am finding writing about things that, well, normally I am able to talk about. The difference I think is that I do not know who is really reading this. That makes me nervous I suppose for several reasons. Mainly I do not want to give away my identity, and I also do not want to hurt anyone, especially my husband.

Our, or perhaps I should say this lifestyle has been far from normal. I do not talk to many of my “real” friends any longer because they think I am too naughty, or a slut. Honestly, this is probably true. However it is my choice, and my husband is not only okay with it, it gets him off. Weird? Yes. Still true however.

Oddly enough most of the people I speak freely about this lifestyle are woman online that my husband shares my profile name with. It was strange at first, to say the least, but I have made some great virtual friends. They do not seem to judge me. And the ones that do, well, I do not talk to them for long.

Ask yourself this, O Husband Chatter friends, if you are talking to a married guy online, and I know what he talks about!, why is my behavior so bad?

This is so strange to me, sharing these details with you. The idea came up a few years back when a then friend of mine I will call J said that I should write a book about some of my adventures. In some ways that has been appealing to me. My life has taken some different turns, most of which I plan to share here.

I am writing more for the women that want to be more empowered. Not the hairy guy to jerk off to, although lets face it, I know you do.

I am married.  In my 40’s. And have been actively swinging, or more often called “hot wife” for about 5 years. My job requires frequent travel, I have been away for the majority of the last 2 months, from Portland, Seattle, some time in Florida as well as a few other places. And yes, my husband knows about most of my activities

I have slowly been trying to plan what name to use here, for myself as well as the other participants. Because I work for a rather large company, and have a very good career, and lets face it, I dont need any stalkers, I will limit most references to peoples names and places with substitutions.

For now you can call me Vanessa. I have always wanted to be a Vanessa

And yes, in some ways I am a slut!